Unfortunately, in the modern Feminist/Progressive world of identity politics and androgynous ideology, men and women now often work side by side, sometimes even doing the same job. Thus avoiding competing with women is almost impossible for many men.
The problem, as Jordan Peterson so eloquently pointed out, is that the ways that men compete with each other are forbidden when men compete with women.
In short, the boundaries of male competition and discourse are maintained through the constant possibility of escalation to physical violence. But men cannot do that with women … any conflict cannot be escalated as such. And thus men in the modern world don’t know how to compete with women, short of simply walking away.
When we put men and women together in the same working environment, but provide no way for them to compete and/or escalate conflict to full resolution, we do them a disservice. Moreover, if the only possible resolution comes from “communication” using feminine modes of communication, then is it any wonder why most men feel lost at how to compete with women? Or that men in the West either adopt more feminine traits or simply avoid women altogether (i.e. MGTOW)?
These issues lay at the heart of a lot of the growing dysfunction in the West, and contribute to things like the rapidly declining male college enrollment (females are now making up nearly 60% of freshman undergraduates) and spiking middle-age male suicide rates.
So in this era of “toxic masculinity”, what is a man to do?
- Avoiding career paths dominated by women – this is becoming exceedingly difficult. Still there are certain technical fields where men dominate given their innate preferences to things of technical/logical/mathematical nature. Programming and computer-related fields are obvious here. But any sort of field that requires that schematic sort of thinking is not a natural draw for many women, despite what feminists and progressives might say. Also fields that require certain physical attributes, like the military or the trades, lack a similar draw.
The other possibility is to take on more of a lone-wolf mentality, even when working with others. For me, this means I cooperate and coordinate with others as a team. But when it comes to completing specific tasks (particularly technical ones) I often prefer to work alone. If I delegate certain tasks, I am very judicious about who and what gets delegated. I, for instance, will limit the scope of any delegated task, to make sure that if it does not get completed in time, it does not delay the rest of the project (e.g. I can just leave a placeholder in the main programming code till it gets done).
- Exercising Law of Power #38: Think as you like, but behave as others do – From Robert Greene’s 48 Laws of Power, you can read more about this law here or here. The basic premise here is that, when in a working environment with a lot of women, you must learn to placate to their tendencies of doing things in certain ways. For instance, in my experience, women will want to spend a lot more time talking about things, discussing, etc. rather than actually doing. So you need to be supportive of their need to “communicate”. Women are trying to create group cohesion as part of how they normally function socially. They also might start forming cliques or sniping at each other in larger group settings, but best to stay out of that.
Obviously, that may or may not really be helpful depending on the task, but that is not the point. The point is allow women to act like women, even to the point of encouraging them, so as to not let them get in the way of you accomplishing things in your normal masculine way (e.g. goal-oriented, mission focused, less more efficient communication, visually focused, etc.). Think of it as sort of taking on a paternal role, see the women as little girls, who deep down inside they all are in a way.
And that does not mean women cannot contribute to a project, even a technical one, in meaningful ways. They are great at organizing things, creating cohesive groups quickly, and communicating. I have observed this myself working on various technical projects. Just realize they are not men, and don’t function as men. Appreciate women for what they are.
**Note: Don’t get me wrong, there are women who can do computer programming. I’ve trained many of them, including ones that work at big companies like Google and Amazon. But women who have that same innate talent or desire for computers and technical thinking are just not as common as men, in my experience.
- Develop independent income streams, or the ability to work as a contractor – one of the biggest threats to most working men in the West these days are HR (human resources) departments, and the ease at which complaints of sexual harassment or other general female nagginess can quickly jeopardize a man’s source of income. Moreover, many of these HR departments are dominated by women, often with liberal arts backgrounds (e.g. sociology), who have in recent years been heavily brain-washed with third wave feminism and other modern SJW rhetoric during college. This is a very real threat to most modern men.
The only real solution is thus to position yourself as best as possible to mitigate the chance that such people won’t have your balls in a noose. Blackdragon talks a lot about this issue, and I agree with him. It is important to develop independent and multiple income streams that are not directly tied to one organization or company. Cultivate flexibility and outcome independence. This may be by developing the ability to work for yourself as a contractor, starting a small business (or multiple ones) on the side, and/or developing technical skills that put you in-demand in the job market.
Think of it like investing in the stock market vs. having all your savings in company stock (that you work for). Diversification is key to providing stable income even in a volatile market. It also provides freedom when you come under threat from fanatics in the SJW or Progressive groups, or HR threats for that matter. You must assume formlessness, lest they pin you down.